Do You Struggle To Make Decisions?
Do you struggle to make decisions?
Well, it occurs to me that second-guessing isn’t usually the problem. It’s the habit of sitting in indecision that costs us the most.
Every successful person I know has made decisions without full certainty. Because full certainty rarely exists before the decision. It’s built through the decision.
Waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect feeling, or a lightning bolt of knowing is how people waste years of potential.
What can we do instead? We can ask better questions:
What outcome do I want to create?
What decision moves me closer to that - even if it’s uncomfortable?
Am I avoiding the decision… or the responsibility that comes with it?
Big decisions are rarely about choosing between good and bad. They’re usually about choosing between comfort and growth. And when you choose growth, expect discomfort! It’s part of the package.
Now, notice how I said it is part of the package, not the full package. There are so many highlight moments that come from walking a fresh path too. But the brain will not necessarily want to grasp onto that.
Decide who you want to be - and act in alignment with that version of you. Not the you who’s scared. Not the one who’s waiting for guarantees. The you who’s capable, committed, and building something bigger than your fear.
Here are five key strategies I give my clients to support making solid, confident decisions:
1. Clarify the outcome, not just the options.
Most people get stuck trying to choose between A or B… without ever asking what result they actually want.
Start with: What am I trying to create here?
Let the destination guide the decision - not your comfort zone.
2. Set a decision deadline.
Indecision drains energy and momentum. Give yourself a timeframe to decide by.
Gather what information you need, then decide and move.
3. Zoom out: Will this matter in 3 years?
When a decision feels heavy, it’s often because we’re too zoomed in.
Use the 3-3-3 Rule: Will this matter in 3 days? 3 months? 3 years?
It brings instant perspective - and often a surprising sense of ease.
4. Be more committed to the process than the outcome. (This is my favourite one!)
There are no perfect decisions. Only the ones you commit to making work.
Commit to your path, adjust as needed, and trust that every bump in the road is shaping your growth.
5. Ask: What’s the cost of not deciding?
Sometimes it’s not about finding the best option - it’s about avoiding the slow erosion that comes from staying stuck. Even a “wrong” decision can teach you more than no decision at all.
YOUR REFLECTION:
What’s one decision you’ve been circling around - waiting for a sign?
Use the tips and the questions above to make it. Back yourself. Clarity follows courage.
